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why is it so hard for you to, understand that maybe I am just, happy by myself it’s really funny, that people think that being, single, just cannot be a lifestyle, Choice why can’t being single, be my happily ever after and, you gaslighting yourself telling, that oh no he just cares about, me, okay okay hi guys welcome back to my channel, okay wait wait wait wait no no, this is not welcome back to my, channel this is a new channel, we need to have a little self-, introd we need to have a little self-, introduction okay hi everyone, this I’m via you may know me or you may not know me I have a main Channel, and this is my second Channel, and this is the first episode, of my little podcast delve into, topics of societal, expectations of women such as marriage childbirth, how they view women who are single, lesser compared to women who are in relationships, it’s just so crazy to me like, why is our sole purpose in life, just to go please a man I think, that this topic needs to be talked, about, because, in person online I see a lot.
of uh girls their lives just, revolve around men they don’t, really prioritize, themselves so yeah this video is just going to be me unfiltered, as [ __ ] because I been, oh man give me a headache, men give me a headache, men be taking my friends away from me, I just love persuading people, I’m like you don’t need a man, just break up just break up not, everyone thinks like me and that, love is blind because I had my, fair share when I was younger, that was embarrassing ass [ __ ], oh my God I love him so much, but trust me feelings fade why, haven’t you dated, okay so this can be a completely other topic for another episode, I wasn’t conventionally, attractive, it hurts but at the same time, it saved me a lot of trouble, no one ever found me attractive, so I never really missed having, having someone find me attractive, I just kind of always lived without, it I’ve always just put myself, first I always put my goals first, it was toxic in a way because, oh at least I have this XYZ, going for me I had a very shitty.
mindset to make myself feel better, and I don’t care about my looks, I don’t care about my looks but, babe it’s because you don’t know, how to care about your looks, that was kind of like my mindset, back in high school but now that, I’m 24, now that I’m adult there’s a lot of things that I realized, about me being single, what does decentering, men mean it’s a movement that, holds space for a women to put, themselves first rather than, focusing everything, whether they realize or not on men’s opinions and influence, sometimes you don’t even realize, it I’ll be talking to people, and you just know that certain, decisions that they’re making, is because of a man is because, of their husband is because of, their boyfriend I do get it like, when you’re dating someone like, you act as a team right you’re, giving up certain things to, reach a common goal with your, partner there’s something wrong, if it’s like why are you giving, up more than him he’s not giving, up anything you are the one that’s, going to be 9 months pregnant.
with a baby you’re going to be, the one giving up your career, to take care of a kid you can, have your dreams and aspirations, some people dream of being a, stay-at-home mom I don’t like, when Society puts it on woman, like oh you have to be the one, to take care of kids at home, why can’t the men take care of, it he can’t cook, okay why don’t he learn cuz I’m, 24 I am reaching my mid 20s and, I do realize a lot of people, around me which is very jarring, for me
jar
[I, T] ~ (on sth) |~ (sth) to have an unpleasant or annoying effect （对…）产生不快的影响；使烦躁 SYN grate
His constant moaning was beginning to jar on her nerves.
他不停的呻吟使她焦躁不安起来。
There was a jarring note of triumph in his voice.
他声音里含有一种烦人的扬扬得意的口气
because I’ve never dated, before so I never even think, about this but a lot of them, have families and marriage and, having kids in mind if you want, kids there’s a biological clock, that’s ticking for your information,
tick
[I] (of a clock, etc. 钟表等) to make short, light, regular repeated sounds to mark time passing 发出滴答声；滴答地走时
In the silence we could hear the clock ticking.
寂静中，我们能听到钟表滴答作响。
a ticking bomb
滴答作响的定时炸弹
~ away
While we waited the taxi’s meter kept ticking away.
我们等候时，出租汽车的计程器一直在滴答滴答地走着。
dating and marriage is not one, of my priorities fun to poke, at the idea like oh my God what, if I do da it’s fun to imagine, what it would be like dating, but it is not my priorities, I don’t think it’ll ever be one of my priorities, because there’s tooo much [ __ ], things I want to do something, bothers me a lot L is that Society.
deems to think that when you’re single and when you’re not in a relationship, it is automatically bad but if you’re in a relationship congratulations, these days people don’t really, ask me anymore people just assume, I’m single these days which is, good I appreciate that I remember, back in high school in college, people are like are you in a, relationship, I’m like no and they’re like, oh it’s okay you’re going to, find the one suit and I’m like, just why is that what you wish, for, what makes you think that’s going, to make me happy what makes you, think that oh I’m going to be, so happy when I find the right, one why is it so hard for you, to understand that maybe I am, just happy by myself maybe how, I am right now I’m actually really, really content,
content = satisfied
why can’t being single be my, happily ever after why does a, prince charming need to come, along to make me happy the author, in this article also mentioned, how people respond with criticism, and pity when you tell them you’re, single, how there might always be someone.
there for you something I really, liked about this article was, that she mentioned how they viewed, single people as lesser, you’re not complete without your partner you yourself, is not going to be enough for, a lot of these people they just, think that it’s so sad they just, automatically, assume that, you want someone but what if, I’m single by choice you’ll die, alone nobody will hold your hand, you do know that you can be extremely, lonely in relationships, as well right this mentality, like you get your happily ever after when you are with a partner people settle, people don’t want to be alone, because Society views being single, as such a bad thing 7 billion, 8 billion people in this world, and we all end up in the same, way we all die dying is just, what’s going to happen not everyone, is going to think like me and, that is okay this article mentioned, how you have the freedom to do, and be whatever you want and that itself it’s exhilarating, the author she mentioned how, that’s how I feel rather than, lacking something my life Life.
is Richer with the absence of, another let’s be real us women, we give a lot let’s say you’re, in a relationship, you’re probably cooking his dinner you’re prioritizing, him more than yourself I’m not, saying all of us tend to do this, you’re always giving time giving, giving giving giving but when, you’re just by yourself, you yourself are your own priority I’m sure that there’s girlfriends, out there who prioritize, themselves while they’re with, a partner the truth is that a, relationship takes time it takes, commitment and there’s only so, much time in a day you come back, from work and your free time, you spend it with your significant, other maybe the remaining time, you spend it with your friends, you don’t really have time with, yourself you want 2025, started I was so beyond anxious,
beyond: to an extreme degree
Here beyond means “extremely / far more than usual”. It intensifies the adjective anxious.
I was so beyond anxious.
= I was extremely anxious.
= I was way more anxious than normal.
because I didn’t have any time, for myself and so I didn’t really, know what I wanted I was not, in touch with myself I was prioritizing, other people’s needs over mine, I have to hang out with this, person I have to hang out with.
that person not creating any, sort of boundaries, so I kind of lost a sense of identity, I need to spend, time with myself because if I, do not do that I don’t know who, I am the most important person, in this life is myself, I go about this life for myself, if I don’t know what I want and, I’m just constantly absorbing, what people want around me they, want to do this they want to, do that okay I’m going to help, them what about me it’s really, funny, people think that being single, just cannot be a lifestyle, choice they also mentioned that, research shows that being single, actually makes you far more socialable, again which is true because you, have more time I love how the, author word that she was like, and I hate the assumption that, being in a relationship is good, and being single is bad this, is only really targeted towards, woman yeah maybe some men get, told that but it’s just way different, for women because we are the, one that going to be sacrificing, a lot Society view us like we, have an expiration date you’re.
like almost in your 30s or almost, in your 40s like you’re not going, to be able to have kids why don’t, always just don’t make those, comments just let people decide, for what they want to do why, can’t you just put your goals, first why does my life have to, revolve around married to a man, having kids, why is that all life is about why don’t you say that to a man, oh but but he has goals he has Ambitions, you can’t say that to a man okay, what about woman wom can have, the same thing this is the quote, if you are a man you should probably, get married if you are a woman, don’t bother Dolan explains this, is a reference to a study of, American time use which, compare levels of pleasure and un happiness and unmarried, married divorced separated and widowed individuals, the study found that unmarried, childless woman were the happiest population of all, I think that when you’re single and childless, that is the truest, luxury of life I respect people, have different aspirations like, you want to have kids you want.
to be married whatever but from, what I’ve seen they do it because, Society, wants them to their family wants, them to it’s just do you want, it though you’re not raising, a kid you’re raising a human, being at the end did you want, to do this especially as woman, like you have to really think, about this women uphold most, of their responsibilities, in a relationship, especially, if you have a kid and you’re, getting married research continues, to show that in comparison to, men women in heterosexual, relationships, who work outside of Home continue to take on most of household responsibilities, and child labor working coming, home to cook clean attend to, children and meet their partner, needs leaves little room for, consideration, of self your entire identity, it just revolves around others, that can bring you Joy but I, think it’s very important to, prioritize, ourselves as well and I don’t, think that just because you have, kids you can’t have a sense of, self anymore you need create, certain boundaries if you do, not take care of yourself you.
can’t take care of others I can’t, really speak from my experience, how I would put myself first, if I have a kid because I do, not have a kid and I do not plan, having one so if happiness is, tied to having more time and, space for self-, noticing and self nurturing, then there are many reasons why women may wish to delay or forfeit marriage, that’s why it’s just so shocking, to me when I see people just, rushing into marriage my first, thought about marriage, when I was in Middle School was, that I wanted to keep my last, name that was like my biggest, worry and now I do not think, about marriage because why does, the government need to get involved, with my partner like of course, marriage is beautiful with the, right person things might change, down the line for me but as of, now I find that really really, restricting, you need to understand yourself because you literally live inside your body, like if you don’t go try to understand, yourself who will no one can, do the work to understand yourself, besides yourself.
so if you do not put in the work you’re left not understood, and you get confused you make decisions, that makes you confused, because when you’re single you, got to do so many things you, get to explore different activities, you get to make more friends, you can go out into the world, and just see different sorts, of opportunities, some of us are people Pleasers, we want to give the best to others, the best slice of cake the best, of everything to others so you, don’t prioritize, yourself and I personally think that marriage only amplifies, that I mean maybe with the right partner, just it’ll be different but um, in marriage or if you’re dating, someone sometimes you move in, together right self identity, has a lot to do with living alone, when you’re living with your, partner you’re with them 24/7, first thing you do when you wake, up is that you just see them, in the article they said that, living alone doesn’t mean being, alone and finding a balance between, sociality, and Solitude is key just because, you’re single doesn’t mean that.
you’re going to be alone, you might not feel lonely, which is why it’s really important for you to invest in quality friendships, invest in your hobbies and that, truly makes you feel alive and, for those of you guys who are, in like really happy relationships, congratulations, to you still possible even if you live together for you to, live alone you create certain boundaries it just requires open communication, with your partner if you’re just, constantly with the person maybe, you might get too dependent on, them when I see people rushing, into having kids I just think that you’re raising, a human being you’re not raising, a kid like the job doesn’t stop, like 10 years from now it’s a, lifelong, commitment, I’m sorry if this video just, makes it seem like I’m being, a hater I just truly want some, people to understand this perspective, like they just don’t really think, about this I just want to get, married I want to have kids and, you might regret it down the, line I’m just putting the cars, out for you for you to see and.
that’s it especially Woman to, Woman a mother always prioritizes, their kids just what a mother, usually does the truth of all, of this you have less time for, yourself, you have to wake up at 4:00 a.m.to change the diapers you have, to send them to school your life, revolves around them I think, every mother knows that this, is what you’re signing up for, when you have a kid some of us, really just need to sit down, and just really ask ourselves, this question are we really really, ready, to invest in so much energy, into another human being I person, don’t think that you need to, have kids to live a fulfilling, life you should be at the right, timing to have kids some of y’all, are going to be mad at me but, I stand by this if you are not, financially, stable, emotionally, stable, or have the means and resources, to have a kid you should not, have a kid because your kid is, going to suffer with you the, kid didn’t ask to be born you’re, just bringing them onto the planet, that’s unfair for your selfish, reasons of wanting to have a.
kid and especially if you’re, emotionally, unstable, the kids’s going to have trauma, for the sake of the kid and also, for for the sake of you you need, to be ready to do this I think, some of youall are just rushing, into it a little concerning, I don’t know if you guys wonder about this too what exactly, is the point of marriage maybe, you say want taxes that’s what, that’s why I’ve been told families, come together, maybe it gives you a sense of fulfillment, marriage can be a beautiful thing okay but I just seen way too many unhappy, marriages don’t let Society, convince you into that marriage, is the happy ending is the end, goal but I don’t want to be alone, going through life and trust, me I get it it’s like you want, to have a partner to go through, life together because life is, lonely and having someone with, you to go about life is a beautiful, thing that doesn’t mean you should, settle that doesn’t mean you, should just marry for the sake, of it you really need to get, to know yourself instead of like, chasing over some mediocre.
ass man, cuz that shit’s embarrassing, it was one of my friends who mentioned this to me I’m sure we all have instances, where we see a really good man in a relationship, they gave him attention they respect, them they listen to what they say they validate their emotions, they love them as a whole right, but the pattern that I’ve noticed, is that the good men out there, in a relationship, the women, themselves are very confident, people they know their self worth they don’t get swayed, easily they express exactly what they’re thinking, they know that they’re the [ __ ] they just amazing, amazing secure, Confident Woman just knows who they are to the Core, for you to find a good man you need to become XYZ, I’m not saying that this is just a pattern I’ve noticed, which is why I want to say is, that do not ever lower your standard, if they say that your standards, are too high it’s just because, they cannot meet it wait wait, wait wait that your stairs are, too high I’m here though I’m, here though I’m below what you.
want but like this is the reality, of things you got to settle for, me uh [ __ ] you you’re disgusting, I’d rather be alone which is, why it’s so important for you, to be okay with being alone if, you constantly, want to like be in a relationship it shows desperateness, shows very common for women to be settling, these days so I don’t think men are dumb they just use weaponizing incompetence, when they see a woman they want, to keep they will do everything, in their power to change and, to become better, which is why it’s very important to just focus on yourself as well, again I am not saying that to, find a great man you need to, do all this what you want, is going to come if you focus, on yourself you do not settle, for anything less you have high, standards, and even if they don’t honestly, who gives a [ __ ] regretting, decision is okay but regretting, sooner than later is better which, is why I’m just laying everything, out for you before you just see, it it’s like you tell them certain, decisions about yourself like.
oh I don’t want to get married, I don’t want to have kids kids, and they’re like it’s going to, change in the, future, true things may change in the future like everything, we all change whether we like, it or not if I was the same person, like 5 years ago, you’re not going to see me here, if I say I don’t want to get, married and I don’t want to have, kids why can’t you just respect, my decision why can’t we just, respect other people’s decisions, and just be like okay cool when, I say that I’m never dated I, always get people saying like, oh whatever you’re just at sexual, what if you’re blank sexual like, just something labeling, me why can’t you just believe the fact that maybe I just like myself, maybe I am just self-obsessed, maybe I am via sexual, maybe I just love myself so much, that I don’t give a [ __ ] about, others I just love myself too, much I deserve, the best of the best from what I’ve seen girls put in significantly, more effort and time into a first day the man probably just showers.
probably washes his ass like I don’t [ __ ] know bro just shows up in like a, and like sweats, while the girl is just like dled, up you don’t know how much the, makeup that she’s using cost, like she did her hair probably, spent hours doing so much work, I don’t have any male friends, does via avoid, men maybe if I see one at the, convenience store if I’m feeling, really anxious that day I might, just leave the convenience store, sometimes I get people telling, me like hey you can’t avoid men, forever, why not, why not why not, why can’t I do that yes I can and yes I will money cannot buy time, I want to use my time wisely especially in my 20s like I’m young, I’m healthy, my body is moving great everything’s, so fresh I can explore everything, if I really want to get down, serious and want to date I’ll, think about in my 30s 40s do, you ever see men, like ever like oh my God what if I don’t get married by the time I’m like 30 no, what if I’m single by the time I’m 30 no, but that’s what investing in ourselves as woman is very very important.
because men always put themselves, first they don’t think about, oh my God maybe I need to like, change into a certain way to, fit into the woman’s Palace make, sure I’m like not too high maintenance, for women, they only care about themselves, like we should be caring about, ourselves too what the heck one, of the key things for me is that, if I do not trust someone I do, not interact with them yeah there, was one Tik Tok TR where people, were like would you rather see, a bear in the forest or a man, in the forest, a bear belongs in the forest, a man what are you doing in the, forest if I’m going to die I, want to die like a normal death, like the bear probably thinks, I’m a threat but a man, they can assault, they can torture it’s really scary, right and I just don’t want to, deal with that I’m sure all of, us have some friends that are, more male centered because we, live Society, where women are conditioned into, you need to have kids you need, to be married I’m not going to, lie it does get exhausting.
when I’m with girls that are very male centered I’ve heard stories, some girls give up their careers, they just wouldn’t really take, take care of themselves and they, would take care after the man, the man’s a priority, the man is what they worship, everything for the man they don’t, care about themselves which is, also really sad when you think, about it it’s not like I’m not, going to be friends with girls, who go on dates with men it’s, just they have to have a good, amount of self-respect, for themselves okay I just personally do not like to be friends, with girls that just don’t have any self-respect, for themselves does the interaction, between your friend and their significant, other have any impact on your friendship, in a way yes if she’s in a toxic relationship, L getting disrespected, I don’t know if I’ll be friends, with her because I like to be, friends with girls have a lot, of self-respect, it just gets exhausting, if your friend comes up to you, and just constantly tells you, [ __ ] about their boyfriend.
you’re like you got to leave, the situation and they don’t, leave they sit there and get, degraded, it’s it’s not something I want, to see and it’s just really sad, I feel like a lot of girls they’re, very kind but they think what, their hearts in their head I, think you need to be logical, Bob here is not treating you right Bob here is disrespecting, you Bob is really toxic, doesn’t give a [ __ ] about you, and you gaslighting yourself, telling them oh no he just cares, about me girls that believes, in potential then results like, babe especially in our mid 20s, like babe, what are we doing now, does might sound a little harsh, but I do like to be friends with, smart women women who put themselves, first these are just my preferences, it doesn’t have to be your preferences, I do think that the people you, surround yourself with shapes, who you are had my experience, of girls dropping you the moment, they’re with a guy I don’t know, what to say to that because like, some people just value, romantic relationships, more than friendships.
personally can never be me again, that is fine but you have to, respect my decision of dropping, you as a friend it’s a fair game, you drop me because you have, a boyfriend I drop you because, of that so again like I said, before since I’m reaching my, mid 20s and my peers around me, I hear the term marriage a lot, you just feel like they’re running, out of time time to find the, husband the planning of a future, around a man because a lot of, the time when these people are, feeling desperate, they settle and they’re like, I’m running out of time running, out of time you can sense desperateness, okay do I need to lower my sers, do I need to give up certain, goals I don’t think there’s anything, wrong with wanting to be taken, care of because I’m sure we all, want to be taken care of for, you to let go of some of your, goals to please a man and also, just seem less high maintenance, why do you need to change a certain, way about yourself to make a, man like you why can’t you just, be true to yourself why do you, need to fit his palette, more.
like why make it so easy for them why settle, I liked how this article mentioned, how like media shapes how you, think in second grade I noticed, how serious the girls would get, around their crushes and how, they would essentially change, their little burgeoning I don’t, know how to say that word burgeoning, personalities to pursue what, they thought would get the boy, attention when you grow up watching, these Disney fairy tale movies, early condition girls into this, role for men flirting is fun, but at the end the focus has, to always be you you have to, invest it emotionally, and I think that our emotions is very very important, if I am in a shitty mood I don’t, get anything done which is why, I really prioritize, my emotions so I used to be a, really bad fearful avoidant I, still do have very avoidant Tendencies, I’ve gotten better at that I I communicate, with those who are really trust s to be more of a pro targeted, towards men which is I have very, low tolerance to things if I, see something I don’t like I, leave.
I do think some of your girls, need to be doing better than, that man shows up on the first, date and sweats and you go on, a second date with him like babe, he can’t even put in the effort, for a first date to look cute, for you while you, be spending 3 hours doing your, makeup your hair planning your, outfit where’s the [ __ ] standards, like for me it’s like if I see, something I don’t like I do not, stay to find out because your, girl believes in results, not potential, potential also dies, I also like to keep my emotions, in check and stable because I, do think that my emotions control, me more than I control them so, I tend to like to avoid certain, situ situations, if I can priority is very important, you got to prioritize your goals, you got to see what in life you, want to prioritize, men can do really scary things had my fair share experience, I don’t really entertain men it’s not already clear enough, my content is for the girls only I get, comments where people are like not all men are bad nothing truly irks me more, than this [ __ ].
statement you think I don’t know, that not all lions bite why don’t, you go into the cage with one, and lock yourself up it has happened, enough for me to be scared for, me to want to avoid and also, what the political climate that, are country is going through, we women are essentially, losing our rights some states it is considered illegal, to have an abortion we are losing, our human rights it’s so crazy, to me that seeing men vote on, women’s bodies, like why are you voting on something, you do not have when this country, doesn’t really care about our, bodies, I think it’s very appropriate to take certain measures, for us to be safe we women are, losing like some of our basic, human rights and you ask me why, I don’t trust, men, okay there’s like this huge, rise in interest in the South, Korea for B feminist movement, M which basically rejects dating, marriage sex and child birth, I think South Korea has been, doing this for a while but it, just started gaining Traction, in the United States when I found, out about that I was like I’ve.
been part of this movement since, the day I was out of the womb, a woman doing this affects the, entire country, good and that’s the message she said if you want this country to run effectively, maybe you need to give women, back their rights it is as simple, as that you know what’s really, so funny like it would be so, nice to have like a country run, by women it’s just always that, one guy saying that so who’s, going to do the heavy lifting, who’s going to be the police, from what girls are strong they, can get a lot of work done who, are we protecting ourselves from, because it’s always been you, if no men exists I’ll be walking, out in the streets at night at, 3:00 a.m.it is a privilege a huge privilege, for men to just act the way they, act if we women ever act the, way men act we just get scrutinized, men are selfish as [ __ ] we, should learn from them like I, said before I don’t have any, male friends I have some back, in high school and also in college, but from my experience there’s always going to be that one instance.
something is going to come out, if their goddamn mouth that you’re, going to be like oh [ __ ] he, is just a man, objectify, you and then you realize oh [ __ ], he doesn’t view me as an equal, he views me as less than him, I’ve just seen too many of this, instance where you’re like the, only girl and you’re in a boy, group they’re just [ __ ] other, women and you just agree they’re, talking about other girls, and you might just think that, oh my God they’re not talking, about me they’re talking about, other girls I’m different I’m, different babe you’re just the, same you’re just a girl they, might be [ __ ] talking about, you when you’re not around you’re, never going to become one of, the Bros, like to them you are just a girl, and why do you even want to be, in that [ __ ] group they probably, all stink, I have very emotionally, intelligent conversations, with my girlfriends who pay for, your dinner like babe we can, pay for each other investment, into your own life is like very, important over the last 20 years, South Korean women have gained.
more equal access to education, have surpassed men education, enrollment rates, allowing them to entertain the, possibility of a single life, according to miss Moon however, not being married can result, in woman becoming social Paras, and the rejection of marriage ideal has become a radical statement, especially like the older generation, they just like when are you going, to have kids when are you going, to be married it’s really important, for us as women to invest our, time and wisely because you only, live this life once you should, always be a smart woman not a, woman that’s trying to please, men invest in your education, invest in your looks invest in your career, invest in your lifestyle, invest in your health invest, in your quality of life it isn’t, very embarrassing to see how, wom would do the most disrespectful, thing to themselves to fit into, the palette of a man it makes, me so mad and so sad as a woman, myself, maybe the way I think is something, that you realize maybe in your, 30 so I do feel really grateful.
when I find girls my age or even, younger that think the same way, I do going back to what I’ve, said never dated before, never miss it and it’s also I do not want right now having an amazing, partner will be amazing, but I can live without it I’m pretty okay, men are always like what can you bring to the table, babe what the [ __ ] can you bring to the table, if you cannot bring [ __ ] to, the table I’m not spending one, more second with you honly for, me to ever date a man it has, to either he matches me or he, goes, above and beyond me and I think, I’m pretty hard to match I like, to hang out with people that, I can learn from I have to be, able to gain something from it, wisdom intelligence, character traits that I admire, I also need to be able to feel, safe so I can be myself you should, not be hang out with someone, that’s going to be taking, something away from the table because, we’re not doing charity work, here right I don’t like to hang, out with people that makes me, feel negative about myself that, makes me feel drained that makes.
very odd decisions that I just, simply do not align with through, my time through traveling I do, realize that I have seen more, of the world, I have seen a lot of internalized misogyny, especially in the poal climate, we are in right now women need, to stick together which is why, the idea of internalized misogyny is so [ __ ] to me by definition, it is sexism turned inwards, towards ourselves and outward, towards other women nothing angers, me more than seeing women being, in competition, with each other just for, the attention of a man, like how is that worth it, like men are taking our rights, away from us and you still want, the attention of men like what, are we doing now being a woman, is such a beautiful, thing we just have so much things in common that men, can never, understand but instead you want, to make every single girl around, you a [ __ ] enemy, why because she’s prettier than, you as a kid you don’t really, have a sense of core yet you, don’t really know what’s right, or wrong so you just listen to, the adults around you you just.
absorb everything from your parents, just something you would have, to unlearn, if you grew up in that environment, but when you are a full grown, ass adult I mean the 20s is still, young I get it some people don’t, know it until they’re in their, 30s 40s or maybe even later on, some people carry internalized, misogyny, to their deathbed, it’s really sad they see you, being pretty they see you living, a happy life they see you wearing, makeup they show passive aggressiveness, because they’re not happy with, their lives you’re clearly not, happy with your life that’s why, you’re giving me attitude, despite me not doing anything, wrong people just go through, [ __ ] it doesn’t excuse your, actions but don’t take it personally, it’s not because it’s you this, author mentioned a lot a very, Niche thing that we don’t really, talk about as a woman I often, feel as if the expectation is, to be humble, which basically means smiling and shaking your head when complimented, for the skills and performance we have worked hard to achieve, dismissing.
them as if they are nothing out of the ordinary, even when we know they are not, to be seen and recognized as, the expert I am I have to be, more do more show more write, more be humble and never get, to claim my status when I hear, people going on dates they’re, like he paid for a 300, like no, it’s just so weird when people, say that better than him taking, you to like a fast food chain, I don’t think that should be, the solar reason that he’s so, amazing sopia, will you ever, date, I’m not against it I’m just not looking for it recently, I’ve been feeling very anxious, there’s too many things I want, to do and there’s just not enough, time the closest thing I had, to a romantic relationship is, friendships, I do put a lot of emphasis on friendships do I value my friendships, as of like a romantic relationship I question my sexuality, but I don’t think it’s weird, cuz I generally care about my, friends I have high value for.
my friendships is that weird, would it be less weird if I don’t, really care about my friendships, the girls who ask me that are, usually the ones that are nicer, to men than women from my experience, our friends, should be raising our standards, from whoever you want to date, especially for girls you should, not be centering, your life around, pleasing a man it’s just sad, when I see girls planning their, life away just for a man that, doesn’t really even love them, even if they do love you you, can’t be given giving up your, dreams and your aspirations, why does he get to do everything, he’s ever wanted and you have, to give up your goals I don’t, want to be like oh [ __ ] woman, who wants to get married to men, everyone has different aspirations, I just want you to really think, about it did I place myself first, is that truly what I want and, if it’s what you want it’s what, you want I just don’t want to, see woman regret their decisions, 10 years down the line being, like I should have went to grad, school I should have taken that.
art class but instead I had to, be home and take care of the, kids were just very, conditioned be married have kids, take care of kids like I want, to be a mother I want to have, a family men don’t think that, like yeah maybe to have a family, but he’s still in control of, his life he doesn’t need to be, home to take care of the kids, I’m not sitting here trying to, teach anyone a lesson I’m not, sitting here trying to convince, you XYZ, again I just want to lay the, cards in front of you and just, tell you these things Society, just conditions you into thinking, that this is what we women should, be doing we’re allowed to have, goals we’re allowed to put ourselves, first we’re allowed to just be, single for the rest of our lives, it’s okay to not want to get, married it’s okay to not want, to have kids it’s okay to just, live a life where you don’t want, a family I didn’t get that validation, that I wanted someone telling, me hey it’s okay to just not, want to get married it felt so, isolating, because I just didn’t want that.
I didn’t want it I being [ __ ], weird it made me think that I, needed to get married because, this is our life and we call, the shots, our path can be so different, from another person’s path our, path doesn’t need to be the same, as the people around us we can, carve a way that we’ve never, seen before and you’re going, to be the first everything that, we’ve seen so far someone started, it first people just followed, it just became a thing and then, you see people getting married, you’re like oh [ __ ] that’s, the norm that’s what people do, nowadays, but we can start our own normal thing such as not getting married, and the more of us who do it, that might just become a normal, thing for future Generations, especially, like nowadays just so different from back then we have so much opportunities, some of us just want to have fun some of us just want the, physical intimacy and you know, that’s cool but just remember, you come first prioritize, yourself first, I really do hope you guys enjoyed, this first episode of my journal.
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